The art of not taking things personally



We are all faced with many different situations throughout life and we deal with people from all different walks of life. We take in energies from the people around us, and the environments around us. Misinterpretation and misunderstandings happen all the time, and it is completely unavoidable.


Many valuable and meaningful relationships, whether it is friendly, romantic or professional get jeopardized due to misinterpretation. Taking things personally is something we all do every now and then, some of us more regularly than others. It is important to remember, that in order for you to function and your highest vibration, you need to choose your inner peace over everything, and when you take things personally, you choose to let others destroy your inner peace.


Perception and judgment is something that gets filtered through personal experience, personal thoughts and convictions. No two people will have the same perception and due to this we all process scenarios and situations differently. Some of us are also more sensitive, and due to this we get affected by the actions and words of others more seriously. Some of us just brush it off and move on with our lives. Maybe the girl in the hall didn't hear you when you greeted her because she was distracted? No need to take it personally and think it was a malicious attack against you. There are many scenarios that can take place, but it is important to keep your cool and keep a clear, aware perceptive. Here are ways to chill out, and not take things too personally.


1. Put yourself in other people’s shoes


We can often take it very personally when a person lashes out at us or behaves in a rude, unfriendly manner towards us. It is important to remember, that the way others treat you, is not a reflection of you, but more a reflection of themselves and their inner state. Maybe your colleague or partner is under a lot of pressure and is having a bad day. They could possibly be going through some distressing personal situation, or they could be at a breaking point. People go through things, and nobody can remain a perfect happy go lucky person all the time. Take a step back and put yourself in the other persons shoes. Would you still remain cool, calm and collected if you were in the same position? Sometimes, it helps to understand that not everything is about you.


2. You could be unknowingly pushing someone's buttons